Comments on: Ignore The Naysayers and the Haters

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 18:34:52 +0000

@Melody You’re welcome. I am all about positivity and supporting other people. It’s unfortunate that people have to be haters and so negative toward an artist, but they only do it because they’re jealous. They wish they had the balls to create art and put it out there. It’s amazing that you’re putting yourself out there. Congrats–you’re on your way to reaching all your goals!

By: Melody Joy

Melody Joy — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 07:29:17 +0000

Thank you so much for writing this! I am a musician, lyricist, and producer. I can tell you are passionate about your work,..likewise. I get upset when people purposfully try and hate on my art… it’s upsettng when it’s something an artist works so hard to put out and gets the typical “internet trolls” trying to downplay everything they have done!

Artists create masterpieces

Haters create negetivity around masterpieces they wish they could create, but didn’t. And if they can throw at least one wrench in the works to try and down grade ones art, it makes them feel better.

By: leona

leona — Sat, 01 May 2010 20:52:20 +0000

i love this article…..this all for ahters in the world .it really helps…

By: Susie McCray

Susie McCray — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 13:48:24 +0000

I have stop talking to negative people about my writing because all they do is make me not want to write. It’s as if they become the little nagging voice in my head that says, “You’ll never be any good.” Usually, I manager to keep that little bugger at bay, so it’s important for me not to feed into the negativity of the naysayers.

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 05:32:14 +0000

I love this post. I am still working on this one: There’s a level of putting yourself out there and opening yourself up to criticism that many other hobbies and professions don’t have.

I know it, but I am still struggling to deal with it. I will keep your tips in mind!

By: Linda

Linda — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 03:05:26 +0000

Thanks so much for this reminder! I work with a few negative people and tend to shy away from them as much as possible–I call them “energy vampires” because being around them is so emotionally draining.

I’ve noticed that most people who are negative about my being a writer are not readers. If they don’t “get” how enjoyable reading is, why on earth would I expect them to “get” the idea of someone wanting to write a novel?

Many of the vampires have already dropped out of my life because I will not drop what I am doing (writing) at a moment’s notice to spend time with them. I’d be willing to bet the rent though that when I am published, they’ll all come crawling from under floorboards and want to be BFFs again LOL!

By: Paulo Campos

Paulo Campos — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 21:47:45 +0000

Something that I struggle with are the unintentional naysayers. Readers who don’t connect with something I wrote. My father and a member of my writing group do this from time to time. Both are incredibly supportive, but more often than not are not helpful readers and my battery of questions aren’t leading to answers more specific than a variation of “I don’t get it.”

Sometimes what I feel is important to a character is different from what they were expecting. I generally don’t write “experimental,” bonkers work, so I feel badly that what I wrote didn’t connect with them and take that kind of response as a barometer as to what kind of reader will be receptive to this.

Despite knowing better, this kind of unintentional naysayer is a frustration that makes me feel somewhat insecure about my ability to communicate. I guess it’s a bit similar to a personalized rejection letter. Best to remember you can’t please everyone, pour yourself some wine (or coffee) and get back to work.

Thanks for an encouraging post!
(I chronically forget about affirmations; I’m glad this reminded me).

By: Crystal

Crystal — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 19:29:56 +0000

Great post, and so accurate! I hate naysayers. With all the self-doubt that already ebbs and flows in our lives as writers, the last thing we need is another extraneous layer of doubt eating away at us. Let’s shed those layers, writer-folk, starting with the naysayers!

By: jblan

jblan — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 19:25:25 +0000

@Ann Marie I couldn’t agree with you more! I, too, cut off some of the “toxic” people in my life. It can be such a drain to spend a lot of time around negative people. It’s worth it just for your health and peace-of-mind not to be around them.

By: Ann Marie

Ann Marie — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 19:22:02 +0000

Some naysayers, quite frankly, I’ve cut off. First of all, how good a friend are they if they’re downgrading my project? And second, some naysayers are just constant complainers, so it’s a general mood enhancement not just support for my work. Then, with the dearth of social life, I’ve had much more time to write as well.